Using different words and forms changes how strongly you are telling someone to do something
1. ‘Should’ or ‘ought to’ are for general advice
*Note a slight difference in meaning:
should = it is a good idea to…
ought to = it isn’t good if you don’t…(can seem a little stronger, although both can generally be used)
Should | Ought to |
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It’s a beautiful day; we should have picnic. | You ought to go. |
You should call her. | They ought to pay more attention. |
2. ‘Shouldn’t’ is far more common than ‘ought not to’
You shouldn’t go. | You shouldn’t waste your money on that movie: it’s awful. |
They shouldn’t get married. | Paul shouldn’t talk so much during meetings. |
3. ‘Could’ is used to suggest an idea (weaker than advising)
“What shall we do?” “We could go to the park.” | You should go to the party. Or you could come out with us if you like. |
I’m not sure what job I can get, although Yun said I could try applying for the police. | “I think you could try being nicer to your father.” |
4. ‘Might want to’ is used to strongly suggest to someone what they should do
Although ‘might want to’ reads like a suggestion, it is often spoken in a way that sounds like ‘if you don’t, you’re a fool’.
You might want to brush your hair before you go out. | You might want to put on some pants before my parents get here. |
He said she might want to give Mr Peters a call – he is always looking to hire people. | You were pretty rude to her last night. I think you might want to apologise. |
5. ‘Had better’ is very strong advice. It is often used like a warning
You had better put on your good shoes; it’s an important occasion. | She had better be ready when I get there; I’m not waiting for her. |
“You kissed her sister? You had better apologize.” | You had better not come here again. If you do, I’ll kill you. |
6. Exercises
Use the different modals of advice to:
(i) tell a person getting married is a really bad idea
(ii) suggest that giving a present is a good idea
(iii) tell a person that throw something away, otherwise you will get very angry.